Chapter 2 ANGER MANAGEMENT
2.1
Self-Reflection
Dear students, ask yourself a
question: "How do I feel?" Today, we have to look deep inside
ourselves for self-reflection and let us try to understand our feelings. If we
can understand and analyze our emotions, then we can become bright and
successful students, since emotions are the driving forces that direct our
lives. Our ability to learn, think, memorise, make decisions, maintain interpersonal
relationships and our health are all linked to our emotions. If we are able to
understand our feelings through introspection, then we start climbing the
ladder of wisdom. We should know when and to what extent, we need to laugh or
cry and be happy or angry.
Realm of my feelings
Now let us examine in which
realm of emotions do we stand?
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Sr. No. |
I feel
that I am |
Yes/No |
Realm |
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1. |
Happy |
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2. |
Satisfied |
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Golden |
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3. |
Calm |
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4. |
Gloomy |
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5. |
Sad |
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Yellow |
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6. |
Exhausted |
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7. |
Anxious |
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8. |
Irritated |
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Orange |
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9. |
Disturbed |
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10. |
Very Angry |
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11. |
Very
Restless |
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Red |
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12. |
Out of
Control |
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The realm in which we have maximum
"Yes", we are in that same realm of emotions.
1.
Golden realm: - If we are in the golden realm, then
we are worthy of praise. It means that our life is full of happiness. We are
satisfied, calm, cheerful and ready study.
2. Yellow realm: - Yellow realm means we are a little gloomy, sad, dissatisfied, and
exhausted.
3. Orange realm: - Orange realm means that we are very anxious, worried, very irritable and
disturbed.
4. Red realm: - If we are in the red realm, then we are full of anger, very impatient,
very restless and often get out of control.
Dear
students, which of the above emotional loops do you like the most?
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Would you like to control
your emotions to be in your favourite emotional realm?
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2.2 Volcano of Wrath
What
do you see in the picture given below?
· There is a volcano in the picture. This is the volcano of wrath or anger.
·
In this picture, you can see green
trees on the ground near the volcano and a river flowing with clear water.
These are the symbols of prosperity. That is why a smiling face has been shown.
·
Next is a sad face which is in a
state of restlessness and anger. Dear students, it is normal if you get angry
and sad sometimes.
·
On the top, there is a furious face
near the volcanic eruption. When anger gets out of control, it erupts like a
volcano. Whenever a volcano erupts, it wreaks havoc and destroys everything
around it. In the same way, anger eruptions also bring destruction. As a
result, physical health, mental health, family relationships as well as social
relationships all suffer by annoyance. So we must learn how to control our
anger. Otherwise, the fuming wrath can turn into a volcano leading to a
gigantic mistake for which we may need to regret later. But if we control the
anger, then we may become successful human beings.
·
Dear students, draw a volcano of
wrath in your notebook or on a chart and place it in your classroom or study
room. Whenever anger strikes, try to control it by looking at this chart.
"What should I do to control my anger?"
Dear students, whenever you get
angry. You should know to control your anger. Sometimes an angry person makes a
big mistake that he/she has to regret, later. You must have the strength to
endure. If you succeed in controlling your anger, only then you can become a
civilized person.
Now think about what to do when you
get angry. Whenever you get angry or annoyed, keep in mind the following
points:
1. When you feel enraged, drink water
and then sprinkle it on your face and eyes.
2. Close your eyes and focus on your
breathing. Take a deep breath. Observe that the breath is coming in and going
out. Imagine that with every breath you take out, your anger also moves out.
Repeat this exercise for 2-3 minutes.
3. Start reverse counting from 30 to
I or start spelling your name in reverse order.
4. Create a peace corner in your
classroom, school or home where you can feel at ease or relax. Go to this
corner and do whatever you like to relieve stress; like drawing a picture,
drawing a cartoon, writing down your feelings on a piece of paper and tearing
it off or doing an exercise.
5. Consult your teacher or any senior
in your family to take assistance for anger management.
2.3 What is correct?
|
Situation |
How
do I react? (Tick
the option that is correct for you) |
How
should I react? |
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When
someone scolds me? |
·
I argue further. ·
I get irritated. ·
I deliberately make more mistakes. ·
I start crying. ·
Silently, I endure being miserable. |
·
I apologize for my mistake. ·
I promise not to repeat the mistake. ·
When his/her anger subsides, I clarify my
perspective. |
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When
I am jealous or angry with someone? |
·
I try to harm/hurt him/her. ·
I provoke him/her to commit some mistake. ·
I try to tarnish his/her image. |
·
I try to improve myself by imitating his/her good
habits. ·
I discuss this with someone else. |
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When
I get angry at someone because of his/her misbehaviour? |
·
I start fighting, arguing and scolding him/her. ·
I stop talking and start ignoring him/her. |
·
I humbly try to correct him/her. ·
I try to find out the reason for his/her
misbehaviour. ·
I consult an elder for advice. |
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When
I do not want to study and I am forced to attend the class. |
·
I disturb my classmates. ·
I argue with the teacher. ·
I do not work and make false excuses. |
·
I focus on learning by exercising self-control. ·
I abandon the habit of making false excuses. ·
I fix my goal for life and work hard to achieve it. |
2.4 Interesting Activities
1.
Draw a picture of your mood to show your state of mind.
2.
Draw a cartoon to show the angry face.
3.
Write a few lines when you had to pay for your anger.
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4.
Write down what you will do to control your anger.
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Teacher to the Student
